Considering having a bridesmaid contract???
Posted on January 25, 2008 in the Tips/Reviews, Real Weddings category
No this is not a joke, I was reading my wedding magazine which Dave thoughfully bought me. There was an article about a recent American bride who made all her bridesmaid sign a contract. I found a similar contract online and I have to share it with you cos its so funny…
*Bridesmaid’s Contract*
Hello my beautiful bridesmaids! Let me just say again how happy I am that you are going to be a part of my special day! Below are just a few guidelines for the wedding that I’d like you to review, please initial by each point, sign at the end and send back to me. Just want to make sure they’re aren’t any surprises! The planning bride is a happy bride! Thanks a bunch! Love ya! -Katie
______ My hair will remain at the length it is now or longer.
______ I will not change my hair color without first consulting Katie and providing a sample photo or hair swatch for consideration.
______ I will use Sally Hansen’s “Maximum Growth-Daily Nail Growth program” every day for the 4 months before the wedding day.
______ I will not gain more than 4lbs from the weight I was when I was asked to be a bridesmaid.
______ I swear to attend all showers, (lingerie, bridal & bachelorette) to arrive in a timely manner and do everything in my power to support and “be there” for the bride.
______ I will purchase the David’s Bridal style # 81123 dress below in Latte/Champagne within 3 weeks of today.
______ I will NOT knowingly get pregnant without notifying Katie at least 4 months prior to the wedding so a suitable alternate can be found. I will also give my purchased bridesmaid dress to said alternate.
I do hereby swear that I will adhere to all of the above & other understood bridesmaid duties for the wedding on September 21, 2007
X_________________________
(sign, print and date)
Yes, this is the real deal. Not something made up, there are brides out there who actually do this.
I think that is quite OTT and I would never consider making my bridesmaids sign one. I did however say to them in person that they should either a. lose weight or b. keep the same weight as they are now, which I think its totally reasonable.
Do you think its abit ‘bridezilla’ that I’m considering asking all our female guests to not wear black, red or white to our wedding. I mean a little black, red or white is ok just don’t wear all black (its not a funeral) all red (are you trying to out do me) or all white (ahem only the bride wears white). Is that abit outrageous??? Or is it something all women know about when attending a wedding?? Then again I have been to some weddings and I don’t think this is common knowledge. Hopefully some of our guests will read my website and pass it round to the other ladies or come April the 8th I will not be happy. LOL
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The contract was a joke!
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=3217531
hunny this has given me some ideas for our contract.
“i will have dinner on the table every day at 5pm”
“i will do all the laundry and ironing without fail”
haha. do you like it?
Hunny, is this contract for you?? hahaha
I bet there are real bridesmaids out there who have actually written contracts like this Sarah
“I think that is quite OTT and I would never consider making my bridesmaids sign one.
I did however say to them in person that they should either a. lose weight or b. keep the same weight as they are now, which I think its totally reasonable”
Seriously… U asked someone to LOSE WEIGHT to be ur bridesmaid??? :S Isnt that a bit OTT??!
Yup, actually I said that to my sister and one other bridesmaids as the dresses have been made and I’m sure they have put on weight over xmas cos now the dresses are too tight so I think I have a right to say something seeing as Dave has already paid for them. Nope I don’t think its OTT cos one is my sister and the other is like a sister already so they should be able to take it from me. Plus if they can’t fit into it by April then I’m having 2 less bridesmaids and I really don’t want to deal with that so I think the easiest way is for them to lose weight. STRESS!!!!
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=512107&in_page_id=1770
I saw this and thought of u!!! Maybe it is common nowadays! Im sure ur bridesmaids wont let u down!
Hahaha i love the bit where youre considering asking female guests to not wear black, red or white haha! I know what you mean tho…i had a few guests at my wedding wear black, white and red. Even Rays sister wore black! But i wasnt too bothered about the black or white…it was the red that bothered me haha. But i had to hold back from saying anything.
Well Vanessa, I’m only bothered if the whole outfit is black. I’m sure everyone knows they can’t wear white and is someone wants to out do me by wearing red, they will be sitting right in the corner of the restaurant LOL
Who do you think you are to tell ANY woman in the world what to do with her wieght or what do wear just because you invited her to your wedding?
I f I were your bridesmaid and you’d tell me I shouldn’t gain weight I would frigging never want to see you again - is this what you chosse your friends after?
Jesus, this is just a wedding, one small day in your whole married life. Wonder about the things that come after and just try to have anice evening.
Really, I wonder what goes on on heads of women like yours…
Laura, I think you may have got the wrong impression as I have ordered 4 custom made bridesmaids dresses. All of them were measured 4 months ago. The dresses have now been made, all I want as a bride is not to have the problem of any of them either losing or gaining weight so that they cannot fit into their dress. If you actually read my comment to Fiona you would have understood my situation. My bridesmaids are very good friends and also relatives of mine so I’ve either known them they’ve whole lives or for many many years. I don’t need someone tell me this is one small day in my whole life, after I have spent months planning this wedding, choosing the right dress for them, going through the measuring process and paying for them. A wedding that is costing my fiancee thousands of pounds, I don’t think you have the right to say that to me or any other bride. My friends are the type of friends where I can actually tell them their bum does looks big in the dress, maybe you don’t have friends like that but our friendship is like that of sisters, brutally honest. Even though I have enough stress from the wedding, I shouldn’t have to justify my actions but I thought this would all clear it up. I can’t be bothered to write anymore about this subject, as it doesn’t even bother my bridesmaids and I think they would be laughing at you after this comment.
well said Sally, i think she kinda misunderstood your post. body weight is a very sensitive subject for some people and i think you may have hit a raw nerve with that lady there.
i may consider getting a contract on my best men. one of them recently got very drunk and fell, getting himself a black eye in the process. that would be horrible for the wedding pics. i think i will BAN him drinking until the day
hi sally, my friend sent me a link to your website last week, and i’ve been glued to it, reading every blog and comment, lol.
firstly, congratulations to you and dave, and secondly, i felt completely compelled to leave a comment after reading “laura’s” post. well done on your reply to her, i couldnt believe how rude she was to leave such a post on your wedding blog!!
this is a great site, and i’ve got so many tips for the door games in which i’m supposed to be helping plan! cannot wait to see your wedding photos! wish you and dave a wonderful life together. xx